How do you do it?
Keep yourself cool under pressure, I mean.
Particularly at the end of the day when you're just as tired and grumpy as the kids.
Only you have more to do. Dinner to prepare, bags to unpack and repack, kids to get to bed ....
And all you really want is to sit down for a few minutes. Preferably with a little peace and quiet.
But what really happens is that you get stuck into all the things that need doing.
While your kids fight, or keep interrupting you, or generally get under foot.
No wonder you lose it from time to time. That's a pressure cooker situation.
And it happens nearly every single night!
All too often the kids lose it too, which makes it really, really challenging.
So, how do you keep cool?
Well, I don't have all the answers but I'll tell you what happened in our house this week.Continue reading
What happens when you do something wrong?
We all make mistakes. Sometimes they're honest mistakes, where we don't know any better - like when we're in a new job.
But sometimes we do know better.
We've all pressed a little too hard on the accelerator when we're running late. Sometimes we get away with it, sometimes we don't.
If a police officer pulls us over and says we were driving too fast, they're pretty matter-of-fact.
They don't get all upset and take it personally. They don't get cranky and say, "You're very naughty!"
They usually deal with the situation calmly. If the driver tries to get out of it by telling a fib, the officer can usually tell - or at least suspect.
But at the end of the day, it doesn't matter if the driver lies. They were exceeding the speed limit, so they get a ticket.
No blame, no emotion, just a clear statement of what was done to get the fine.The police see all sorts of bad behaviour - the worst of society - but they take it in their stride.
They give their version of the SuperNanny line "That behaviour is not acceptable", they deliver the consequences, and that's that.
The offender can try being charming, or angry, or they can tell lies. It makes no difference to the outcome.
They don't let people rile them, they just do their job.
And you can learn a little from the police officers. If you think of parenting as 'just doing your job' it can help you remain objective, and less emotional when dealing with 'misdemeanours'.Continue reading
Does this sound familiar?
You’ve asked your child to pick their shoes up and put them away and they’ve agreed.
Well, sort of.
They’ve said, “Yes, I’ll do it in a minute” and then gone back to watching their TV show.
This time you tell them that “If the shoes are not put away before the end of this show, the television will go off!”
Your child says, “Yes, mum.” In that dreary, brow-beaten voice they impersonate so well.
Of course, when you come back a few minutes later the TV show has finished and … the shoes are still on the floor. Where they’ve been since the kids arrived home from school.
Does this happen to you?
Do you have trouble getting kids to listen?
Because here’s the thing that no one will tell you.
You may be communicating with them all wrong.
You see, I realise I’ve been setting a poor example, and you may have been doing it too.
I use all the strategies I tell you with my kids.
But sometimes they don’t work.
Sometimes my kids don’t listen to me.
And I think I know why.Continue reading
Don’t pretend you haven’t imagined it.
Every parent on the planet fantasizes about disowning their children at some stage. It might be fleeting and frivolous, but we’ve imagined it or joked about it.
We’ve thought about how much easier it would be to have a pet.
Or jested about changing the locks while the kids are out.
Or talked about swapping our kids for the neighbours kids (who seem so much easier to look after).
We love our kids, but living with them sometimes drives us a bit … mad.
It’s normal. All parents go a little crazy, or feel a little insane at times.
And I’m not suggesting you should actually disown your children.
But I do think it’s healthy to disown some of the emotional baggage around parenting.
Disown the anxiety.Continue reading
It’s what every parent wonders.
How to get kids to listen, that is.
So you don't get tied in an enormous knot of frustration so big you feel like Mount Vesuvius about to erupt.
So you don't have to repeat yourself … over and over and over.
So your kids no longer tune you out.
And you don't have to resort to yelling just to be heard.
The good news is that you can stop tearing your hair out now. I’ve got you covered with these 36 Kick-Ass Ways To Get Your Kids To Listen.
It’s a round-up of the best advice from the best parenting experts.
So let’s dive in, shall we?Continue reading