Tag Archives for " communication "
Do you ever find yourself dissatisfied with your child’s behaviour?
I don’t mean when they have a temper tantrum or something. I mean generally dissatisfied.
Like wondering why one of your kids is always the last – at everything. Always the last to get out of the car, the last to get into the car, the last to do anything.
Why one of your kids is reasonably responsive and responsible and the other one doesn’t seem to make an effort.
I’m describing the younger of my two girls here.
She’s sweet and kind and gentle and caring. But she’s also slow. She gives up too quickly and lacks perseverance.
She’s not overly confident in herself.
I know it’s not just my daughter. I see similar traits in members of other people’s families too. Maybe you have one at your place.
If they’re like this as children, how will they cope when they go out into the world?Where will they discover the inner strength we all need to get through the bumps and knocks of life?
How can we help them find their inner resilience?
And then I remembered something.Continue reading
Sibling rivalry is torture isn’t it?
If you have more than one child in your house you know the emotional exhaustion that comes with children who fight.
They can get on so beautifully sometimes, but at others, it’s like World War Three.
And worse, you’re expected to sort it out.
Which is more complicated that trying to unravel a tangled knot of toddler hair.
What usually happens is that one child ends up getting ‘in trouble’ for being the cause of the problem, while the others gloat.
The ‘winners’ bask in the glory of being in favour, and the ‘losers’ feel resentful – towards their siblings and towards you.
Plus, you feel awful about the whole thing. Never sure if you’ve got the right ‘offender’ or delivered an appropriate consequence.
So, no real winners here. Only losers all around.
It’s just horrible. You wish it would go away, but you know it won’t.
What you need is what anyone needs in a messy, awkward, thorny situation.
A simple solution. A roadmap to help you navigate the quagmire of complexity.
A series of steps that helps you work through the mess, and come out feeling squeaky clean.
Something reliable that really works.
So here it is. How to sort out sibling rivalry without going completely insane. ;-)Continue reading